Oh please don’t tell me you think this is real

This summer I am busy working on my thesis, but I am also disturbed by some of the images of Black women that I see.  I knew from the beginning of Love and Hip Hop: Atlanta, I would not be watching. Although I knew it wasn’t something I wanted to watch, I watched the first episode before its television debut, and I was correct. It was too much and far from reality. The sad part is that some people really think it is real. You can’t really think something as drama filled and stereotypical is real. People really don’t act like that.

My interests are Black women friendships, and I was really disappointed to see how our friendships were portrayed in this show. And to think people really like this show. Every Monday night, my Timeline on Facebook and Twitter is filled with people waiting to watch this show.  People have gone so far as to attack a character of the show. Now people are really taking this to far. Some of the women who are friends on the show are questionable in my opinion. There are certain things that friends do for each other that I don’t see. Although I don’t watch the show I do read the tweets and posts, I prefer watching Tia and Tamera on Monday nights, followed by Chicagolicious, then Single Ladies.   

As I am conducting interviews about Black women’s best friendships, I am finding out something I have always known, the reality that is shown on TV shows such as Love and Hip Hop: Atlanta is not reality. I can not control what anyone watches on television but I can say realize this is not real. Look at some of your close friendships and relationships and see if you see all of this happening. You may find some similarities but your life is probably not that full of drama. I have decided that I will not be contributing to horrible representations of Black women by partaking in shows that portray us in a negative light every week. Instead I am busy understanding positive relationships that Black women have and sharing this information with as many people as possible. True, you may know people that live a similar lifestyle to what you see on TV but it is not the life of most Black women. You have to be able to separate reality from entertainment. 


Black women friendships

As I am continuing my research for my thesis, it has come to my attention that for as many Black women who say they don’t have females friends their are twice as many that do. Being one of those people who have quite a few female friends, who are mostly Black I find comfort in this. I find comfort in knowing that although everyone has had that one bad experience with another Black woman that has not stopped them from writing off all Black women. As I am conducting research for a smaller study for my thesis, I have to ask people specifically do they have a black girl friend and a black best girl friend. Some say yes and others are like no. For the people who do not have that close relationship with other Black women, I ask them who do they talk to about racism and some of the racist things that go on around campus. Once that question is asked they always think of a close Black girl friend but would not really consider her a friend for real. Well at least you have someone to talk to that understands.
I hope that as I continue this study that I will be able to show people that Black women are able to have close intimate relationships, as opposed to the stuff that you see on television. The relationship may not be peaches and creme but it is not always hell on wheels either.
Until we meet again, I wish every Black female friendship so much love!!!!!