What Legacy will you Leave Behind?



Today is not only the holiday that we celebrate Dr. Martin Luther King’s birthday but also the 2nd inauguration of President Barack Obama. This means so many things for so many people. As I sit here and watch all of the festivities, I think about the legacy of these 2 men and the numerous people who participated in the ceremony. Everyone who participated in this ceremony, is now a part of history. Justice Sonia Sotomayor is the first Hispanic Justice and the first Hispanic to administer an oath office in U.S. history. Now, if that is not history then I don’t know what is (Just thought I would throw that in there). Not overlooking the contributions that everyone made today, most of them are building a legacy to leave behind. As I think about their legacy, I can only think about my own. As a grow older, what will be my legacy? How will people remember me? What contribution will I make to history?

As I think about my journey to becoming a part of the academic environment, I also think about whether my research will have an impact on history, in even the smallest form? I think about all the Black women who came before me who put in the work, but did not have their work acknowledged until after their death. They worked so hard to make a difference in the world around them, and were sometimes not able to see the change they were looking for. The one thing I learned is that they never gave up. They continued on their journey to a better world around them, regardless of what other thoughts or garner the recognition they deserved. I guess all that is left for me to do is to continue on my journey and do the work I think is important to me and my community. 

What legacy will you leave behind????


Black women friendships

As I am continuing my research for my thesis, it has come to my attention that for as many Black women who say they don’t have females friends their are twice as many that do. Being one of those people who have quite a few female friends, who are mostly Black I find comfort in this. I find comfort in knowing that although everyone has had that one bad experience with another Black woman that has not stopped them from writing off all Black women. As I am conducting research for a smaller study for my thesis, I have to ask people specifically do they have a black girl friend and a black best girl friend. Some say yes and others are like no. For the people who do not have that close relationship with other Black women, I ask them who do they talk to about racism and some of the racist things that go on around campus. Once that question is asked they always think of a close Black girl friend but would not really consider her a friend for real. Well at least you have someone to talk to that understands.
I hope that as I continue this study that I will be able to show people that Black women are able to have close intimate relationships, as opposed to the stuff that you see on television. The relationship may not be peaches and creme but it is not always hell on wheels either.
Until we meet again, I wish every Black female friendship so much love!!!!!

Friends, we all have them

As I begin working on my thesis, I have decided to blog about my topic. I am looking at African-American women friendships with each other. If you look at the portrayals of Black women friendships you are only given the negative portrayals. I have always known that some friendships are horrible but some are quite the contrary. Some are very positive without all of the arguing and negativity that is seen. I think of Oprah and Gayle and Tiny and Toya and I am able to see the positive relationships that Black women are able to have with one another. Basketball wives just puts a damper in my spirit when I see all of the negativity and the fact that people are drawn to that is a serious problem. My research wishes to show a side of friendship that is rarely seen in the African-American community, the side where we actually get along. Black women are able to have positive relationships with each other without all of the bickering, gossiping, backstabbing and fighting and my mission is to show that it is happening and we just don’t get to see it. Real friendships between Black women are possible regardless of what is on TV and in the media.